If you want to be wealthy, serve others | Serena Dyer


If you want to be wealthy, serve others

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Yesterday I had lunch with my mom Marcelene, my younger sister Saje and two other women, Somy and Erica. Somy contacted me through a mutual friend regarding an organization she founded called No More Tears. Erica is an attorney who helps Somy with legal cases regarding the women that Somy serves. When we walked into the restaurant to meet these women yesterday I was immediately struck with how physically beautiful both of them are. These women are stunning! Somy is a former Bollywood start who moved back to the US to be closer to family and ended up using her Bollywood savings to educate herself in both college and grad school and then found her organization, No More Tears.

I have been involved with No More Tears (NMT) for 2 days now and I can tell you that this organization and the work they are doing has brought me a lot of tears. A ton actually. Over the last 48 hours I have quietly wept to myself on numerous occasions for a multitude of reasons. To begin with- I have tears of awe. I received an email from Somy regarding a woman that was living in a shelter a few miles from my home after having escaped an abusive husband who trafficked her into the United States and then kept her in his home with his wife and two teenage children, forcing her to basically be his sex slave and maid. During that time, this woman gave birth to one son, who is now 3 and a half and suffered through numerous miscarriages because the man literally beat the baby out of her. In one instance, he beat her so badly that the 3 month fetus inside of her died, but he refused to get her medical care until she was in her 7th month, and it was only after she was in so much agony that she couldn’t stop screaming that he drove her to a hospital to have the fetus removed. Imagine carrying a deceased fetus in your womb for 4 months. Just imagine.

The truth for me- is that I can’t imagine. No one has ever beat me, abused me or raped me. I can’t imagine what it is like to suffer at the hands of someone else because I have never done so. At least not in this lifetime. I also can’t imagine what it is like to be raped over and over again and then beat over and over again by the father of my child- and I can’t imagine what her little boy has seen or felt or heard either.

But because this is a story of triumph over tragedy, I would like to move on. So, a few days ago Somy emailed me about her organization and also about this woman- who escaped this man after discovering she was pregnant again, and fled to a shelter. The shelter contacted Somy because they knew that she has an organization that helps women who have been trafficked and abused, and Somy reached out to me- asking if I could help No More Tears but more importantly, if I could help this woman.

Somy was waining to hear if the woman was approved for the studio apartment she was hoping to move her in to and in the mean somy-image_2time, I emailed my family asking how they could help.

Here is where the tears come in. In 24 hours, I was able to secure for this woman a double stroller, car seat, grocery store gift cards, towels, sheets, kitchen items, toys for her son, a scooter, DVD’s, dishes, a blender, and some baby outfits for her soon to be born daughter. All in 24 hours. Then, when we met them for lunch yesterday- I was able to offer to pay for one month of her rent and sure enough- my 23 year old sister opened her check book and paid for another month’s rent and then my mom did the same. I spoke with my dad later that day and we offered to cover her rent for a year. The outpouring of generosity from my family is so touching to me. We all believe in the idea that if you want to be wealthy in life, be generous, and seeing my family be as generous as they can be just makes me cry!

The other tears came today when I went to the studio apartment to help move this woman and her son in. I came with a car full of belongings and this woman was so grateful that she gave me her jewelry box as a symbol of her gratefulness. This is a woman that has nothing. She doesn’t speak English and her family is thousands of miles away in Morocco. She was trafficked here as a mail-order-bride and has been abused for years. And yet- despite all of it- grace still resides inside of her. She is not bitter- she must have said a hundred times today “happy happy” and “thank you.” I had to fight back tears when I was helping to unpack her bathroom as I felt so grateful to be there and serve her. It is in giving that we receive- and today- I received more than my share of grace. I have been so blessed in this lifetime and being able to share and give to someone else makes me feel so happy- I feel like she is the one giving me everything…

I believe that when we operate from a space that says: how may I serve? The universe operates back by saying: how may I serve you? This isn’t why we give and serve others- but it is always the outcome. I haven’t felt as energized and full as I feel today- in a long time.

I am now going to work with empowering this woman and being of service to as many survivors as I can through the No More Tears organization. As a woman, I feel it is my job to help other women. I am so grateful to be able to do so. Thank you, thank you, thank you.


  1. emmett

    September 19, 2013 at 8:06 pm

    It’s amazing what happens when we open our hearts and minds to people who need our help. And I’m sure everyone who reads your blog post will be inspired to reach out and do something for someone in need. You’re a star!

    “We’ve got to carry each other, carry each other… one…”

  2. Allie

    September 19, 2013 at 8:54 pm

    I just posted a quote today on my FB “Be a rainbow in someone else’s cloud.”
    -Maya Angelou
    I feel like you were the rainbow Serena. So powerful to see all of the love that poured in and showered this beautiful woman because of your actions.
    Beautiful!! Thank you for sharing this story.

  3. Alison Jane Rice

    September 19, 2013 at 9:29 pm

    Wonderful to see the woman you are becoming, Serena. Love & Light, Alison

  4. Susana

    September 19, 2013 at 9:51 pm

    What a sad and yet beautiful story. Keep us posted on how she’s doing, please. I complain so much about my life… and I am also grateful…but reading this, I know I am not grateful enough for all I have and the people in my life.
    Thank you for sharing this story.

  5. Kathleen Bohannon

    September 20, 2013 at 12:21 am

    Beautiful. You are in a position to inspire many and to demonstrate the amazing power of women (and a man..lol, kudos to your father) working together to help someone along the way. I would be happy to help and guarantee there are at least a hundred thousand women out there who would do the same. When we stop comparing ourselves to one another and work together, magic happens ! Put me on your mailing list and contact if you need a hand. Go find another sister who needs a hand and start a sisterhood of girlfriends helping girlfriends. Carry on.

  6. Marcelene Dyer

    September 20, 2013 at 1:59 pm

    I believe the only responsibility we must partake in is the awareness of others. Opening a door, helping load a car of an elderly person’s groceries, smiling while looking into another’s eyes, being calm while around you is chaos just to
    anchor the grounding of the energy. Loving openly a perfect stranger who may
    not notice even but you gave the gift freely. Why did we come here if not just to take care of ourself but to give to another and allow them the dignity of knowing we see them. Somy, Erica, Serena, Saje, Skye, Shane, Julie, Tysen (age 11) and Grayden (age 3 – who each gave a prized toy) and Wayne, who though in
    pain from an injured neck, still wanted to give to another, is what it is all about. Honest. Try this out and see our sorry world heal. Loving hearts answer all.

    • Bill C

      September 20, 2013 at 7:21 pm

      Thank you!


      September 20, 2013 at 9:22 pm


  7. Juliet Turalski

    September 20, 2013 at 6:51 pm

    Serena, this is a beautiful and touching story to read. The power of service is out-of-this-world incredible and I’m realizing it more and more each day as I let go of the need to be anywhere else, but here and now serving, loving, and lessening the suffering wherever my feet bring me. I can feel the power of your love in this post. Beaming light to you x

  8. Terri Lambert

    September 20, 2013 at 8:20 pm

    I am so blessed and proud to know you. I know that this woman will be forever changed because of your kindness and willingness to help her get to a better place in life. Although the material and monetary things will enable her to be safe and provide a good and loving environment for her children, it is your unending kindness and altruism that will benefit her the most. What a great lesson you have shown all of us. Thank you Serena.

  9. Fran Donovan

    September 21, 2013 at 3:15 pm

    Serena, you’ve made me cry also. This story is so filled with love and compassion. I’ve followed your dad for more than 30 years now and he has changed my life for the better in a myriad of ways. I know that he and your mom raised you with love and wisdom. And you are now passing that along to others in need.
    I’m sure the woman felt the hope and love that was wrapped in your gifts. Please let me know how I may serve this organization. Thank you to the entire Dyer family.

  10. Rachel Denning

    September 24, 2013 at 3:09 pm

    What a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing this and for reminding us of the suffering that goes on in the world, so that our hearts can be softened with compassion.

  11. Lucy

    September 27, 2013 at 8:23 am

    I hope you refused her gift, the jewlery box, her only possession. Yes?

  12. prudence holling

    October 4, 2013 at 11:37 pm

    Oh wow!! What a magnificent and intensely touching experience. What was so meaningful to me was the fact that there are so so many opportunities every minute of every day to serve. I am really besotted by this way of living and have only just published a children’s book about this, called “Grace Has A Secret”. It is the story of a little girl called Grace who really wants to serve in this world with kindness and gratitude. I would really love to send you a copy of this book Serena because I just know that you will adore it. If you want to find out more please have a look at the webpage or the facebook page GraceHasASecret. I honour you and your great big heart that you share so willingly and fully. Thankyou so much. Lots of leafy love to you. Prudence Holling, Tasmania, Australia. xxxxx

  13. Burton Haynes

    October 12, 2013 at 12:34 am

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  14. Joan

    October 18, 2013 at 12:40 am

    Luv your heart and your writing!!!

  15. Burton Haynes

    November 14, 2013 at 12:42 pm

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  16. Rhonda Krause

    December 12, 2013 at 12:52 am

    Serena I loved reading your little story.. Tears came to my eyes.. I have only just learnt of you through the http://www.supersouls.com website and the loving way in which you view life is so inspiring to me! Thank you for sharing it. You and your family are beautiful… Keep it up! xxx

    Rhonda Krause

  17. Ana Gabrea

    January 6, 2014 at 5:04 pm

    Through the grace of HayHouse, who’s sole intent seems to be opening my eyes to what matters in this world, I discovered HealYourLife. I immediately turned to the list of autors, scrolled through all, and saw your name. I admit I clicked on your picture out of curiosity, to see if you are realted to Wayne Dyer. Your brief profile captured me and for the past two hours I have been on a journey with you as my guide. I have cried, I have smiled, I have held my breath to hear how stories unfold and finally exhaled with the realization that this “meeting” is not a coincidence. Ever since my daughter was born a year ago, I have held her close at night overwhelmed with love and terrified to think there are babies in this world who may not have a mother’s arms around them, may not have a home at all, who may not know love. I admit these thoughts were trigerred by a picture my sister sent me with an orphanage somewhere in Asia, with newborns swadled and literally lined up like tiny tamales on long beds the length of an entire room. I pray every night that God gives me the strength, the wisdom, the courage to change tthis world one life at a time. it seems God though I need a little inspiration and put you in my path. I will continue to follow your work, contribute to the organizations you mentioned and start on my own path. Thank you

  18. Dennis

    April 24, 2014 at 12:21 pm

    Thank you, bless you for your blog and the stories you share. I am of your dad’s generation and feel you and your brothers and sisters are spreading the flame of God’s healing and deep love.
    As your father used to say ‘I am a teacher’, you too can say that but add ‘I am a sharer of stories . I am a teller of God’s amazing Grace. I am a healer’
    Namaste Dennis

  19. kevin mesa

    July 8, 2014 at 6:13 am

    wow great story, truly inspirational will def bookmark this site and visit it more often thanks for sharing it with us 🙂

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