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Practice Random Kindness…

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My mom with my niece, her 3.5 year old grand daughter

My mom with my niece, her 3.5 year old grand daughter

Growing up, one of my parent’s had a bumper sticker on their car that said, “practice random kindness and senseless acts of beauty” along with another bumper sticker that said, “I am a proud parent unconditionally.” I have heard people talk about “random acts of kindness” but  I never knew the power such a little event could have on someone.

In July, my mom and I were on Maui doing wedding planning things for my upcoming wedding which will take place there. We decided to stop at a little restaurant called Leoda’s for lunch and while we were eating there, my mom noticed a little girl, about 4 years old, wearing a cast on her arm and looking kind of down. My mom gave birth to 7 children naturally and has dedicated her life to raising all of us in the most natural, loving, and kind environment that she and my Dad could dream up. Needless to say, my mom is very tuned into children and very sensitive to their feelings.

When we finished lunch and were heading out, my mom stopped at the table where the little girl was eating lunch with her mom and sister and pulled out a $5.00 bill to give to the girl. My mom said to her, “I had a broken arm and remember what that was like so I would like to give you $5.00 to get some candy or something special since I know it isn’t easy to go through all of this.” The little girl was giddy with excitement and her mother shook my mom’s hand and said “thank you so much, this is really kind of you… look how happy she is!”

We left Leoda’s and got in the car and I remember thinking how weird that was to give someone else’s child money and how some people might not like that but I also was really touched by it because clearly the mom was OK with it. Not to mention the little girl was so happy to be singled out and given something special! I remember thinking that I would never have thought to give a child with a cast a special gift because I have never had a cast and don’t really know what that would be like, but  it was normal to see my mom do something special for a child or someone who seemed down because she always does things like that- it is just the way she is!

Anyway, last week I found a furniture rental company that I was interested in using for some rentals I needed for my wedding so I sent the owner of the company an email and asked if she could send me the price list for the items I was interested in. The woman, Melissa, wrote back and said that she had even more items for rent on her facebook page so I should check that out and see if there is anything else I like that I would be interested in renting as well.

I went on her facebook page, found a TON of things I loved that were reasonably priced, and sent her a message saying I would love to work with her for my wedding. She wrote me back and said that after my message, she looked me up on facebook and couldn’t believe it. She asked me if I had been in Leoda’s in July when a woman I was with gave a little girl with a cast $5.00. I replied to her that yes, I was there and that woman was my mother. Melissa then wrote back to tell me that my mom gave that money to her daughter, who is 3 and a half, who has been sick for a while and has had medical complications throughout her young life, but that she has never forgotten that “random act of kindness” that my mom did for her daughter and that her little girl hasn’t forgotten it either! She said that they immediately went next door to get a shave ice and her daughter proudly handed over her $5.00 bill to pay for her special treat. Melissa also said that her little girl regularly asks now when they can go back to Leoda’s to find her “special Auntie!”

I couldn’t wait to read my mom the message from Melissa and let her know that this mother was so touched by her kindness and hasn’t forgotten what happened that day- and that this woman is now going to be involved in helping me create the wedding of my dreams! My mom’s response- in her typical fashion- was to ask me to get Melissa’s address so she could send her little girl a surprise box of goodies from her “special Auntie from Leoda’s!”

I really understand the bumper sticker now. Practice random kindness and senseless acts of beauty. Thanks mom.


  1. Tera

    October 15, 2013 at 7:47 pm

    You rarely know how random acts of kindness are received and it is awesome (and not a coincidence) that you found out who the little girl’s mother is. What a cool circle that act created and it lifted my heart to read about it while I am sitting here in the CCU waiting room. I needed that story today and I so appreciate you sharing it! Give your sweet mom a hug for me, she sounds amazing!

  2. Michelle Blechner

    October 15, 2013 at 8:47 pm

    What a lovely story!!! Very much in harmony with your family energy. I do not personally know you but briefly met you, your mom and your sister Skye at Gabby Bernstein’s book launch in Miami this past winter. Shortly after I decided to go to Brazil for a retreat with John of God and my daughter Macha reached out to you (or your sister) to get some info for me. She found out your mom had been there and synchronistic ally was interviewing her right at the same time. Your mom agreed to talk to me and was such a delight, giving me all kind of “tips” and really going over board to encourage and inform me. Loving your dad work for several decades, it made me feel good that kindness really ran in your entire family.

  3. Susana

    October 15, 2013 at 9:49 pm

    This is one of the most beautiful posts I’ve EVER read!! What an amazing story. You have beautiful parents. Thank you for sharing. 🙂

  4. Trish

    October 16, 2013 at 10:44 am

    I remember you acts of kindness to a little girl and boy on a cruise 🙂 She often talks about Princess Serena and that little boy still plays with the slingshot 🙂 It seems that it comes naturally from you too!

  5. Geralyn

    October 19, 2013 at 3:27 am

    Serena, I SO love this story & SO appreciate you & your family helping to light the way for many of us! Light Love & Peace to you all!

  6. Josh

    November 19, 2013 at 10:28 pm

    Wow, what an inspiring story. I recall wanting to be a “giver” my whole life. It was only up until a few years ago that I learned why I wasn’t able to give. In fact, I spent many years walking around with a big hole inside of me. All of my time was spent taking (attention, acceptance, affection, appreciation) from others that I had no time to give. Of course, this isn’t the case now in my life and giving is at the forefront of every day. It’s only because I no longer have that hole and instead have self awareness and lots of love. Thanks for sharing Serena!

  7. Anna

    August 21, 2015 at 2:57 am

    What a lovely story and how blessed were you to experience it. Your mum sounds like such a lovely lady. I was able to go to Brisbane last week to listen to your dad speak. What amazing parents they are (yes I did read your book) and I am sure you will be an amazing parent to your little girl. I did meet you once on a cruise around the Pacific out of Sydney. I think it was about three years ago. Yep practising random acts of kindness is the way to go. Namaste

  8. Audrey

    August 31, 2015 at 5:28 am

    What a lovely story , I like to try and follow this random act of kindness , if more people did this what a different world it would be xxx

  9. Tina Ajdar

    September 2, 2015 at 11:49 am

    Sending you love and comfort. <3

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